Something I found out long ago in my own recovery was that without finding true purpose in life, I would never beat the addictions that had conquered me. Without a doubt, purpose is the real cure for addiction. Everybody has an opinion or several opinions on addiction and whether or not it can be beaten. Regardless of which position a person takes, whether they’re an addict in recovery, one who feels they are recovered, an expert in the field of addiction or a family member or friend connected to someone with addiction issues, there is one common denominator that will be found in both successful and unsuccessful cases that dictates their success, PURPOSE or the lack of it.
I don’t believe that anyone ever decides on being hooked on drugs, alcohol, gambling, food, hoarding etc. I think that the stimulating power of such compulsive behaviors sneaks itself into the cracked door of broken or lost purpose in a person’s life. I meet new people frequently and their families and friends always take the time to tell me how great of a person their loved one is, despite how mad at them they may be currently. When I dig into their history a bit, there is always something that happened to them that changed the course of their life and took their focus off of their purpose, i.e. loss of job, divorce, infidelity, family disputes, failed goals, death of loved ones etc. Gradually the addiction grew larger and eventually became the person’s new purpose in life whether they wanted it that way or not. The characteristics are all the same, good friends gone, bad friends now in, foul ups, errors, laziness, narrow minded behavior, more and more removed from reality and into a world of selfish delusion.
Every person has to find their own path toward purpose again by taking the first step, accept there is a problem greater than you and stop doing it. That’s an obvious statement if there ever was one but it all starts with a decision, even if it starts as someone else’s, hence the intervention. From there a person needs time away from their problems to actually let their brain settle and re-focus on life’s priorities. We have to confront what we have done to ourselves and others and find ways to make up enough damage to be forgiven by those closest to us but most of all to forgive ourselves. Everyone in recovery needs a clean slate but a short leash until proven otherwise. We as addicts need a chance to believe in ourselves and our abilities again but also have to humble ourselves that we have a lot of work to do to make up for lost time. With the support of family, friends and support groups a person can get back on track and start to have realizations again about what they can do versus what they cannot.
What matters is taking the time to strip away old destructive behaviors and developing new and constructive ones while living under new guidelines with healthy boundaries. Along this path is the cure for addiction – PURPOSE. Purpose doesn’t have to mean being a millionaire or being famous. Purpose is more on the lines of what families describe as the real person inside, someone who makes people laugh, has a great sense of humor, kids love them, people love them, charismatic and caring about others. One has to find out who he really is again. Being successful isn’t merely about amassing material things. Addicts are notorious for obsessing on having money and things things things! Things are a distraction and to put it bluntly, the less a person has, the more they appreciate what they really possess. Money and things will come along the way but true purpose is love for oneself and his family and friends. Nothing else really matters and life is full of rewards.
If you’re someone stuck in the world of addiction or you know and love someone who is, there is always a way out and many ways to find your purpose again. We at New Life have all lived through addiction and found our purposes in life. Life is full of booby traps and tough times but addiction is not an option anymore. We want to help others find their purpose just like we have so if you need assistance or just need someone to listen, please call and let us help you find your cure for addiction. Call 844 688-8555 any time of any day.
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