When working with our clients to choose an appropriate treatment program, one common question that often comes up is whether it is best to go away for treatment or stay locally. The inclination is normally to stay locally for the simple reason that it’s easier to do and usually more cost effective. Many times a person will be limited to a more local, in-network program due to their insurance policy or based on what is simply affordable to spend on treatment and expenses, so we find what will work for them more locally, within that network and within their means. But, if there is a choice and a person has the ability to go away for treatment, we always advise to leave one’s home environment and take advantage of a program far from home.sure
When a person is struggling with addiction, it’s not only mentally, physically and spiritually affecting them; it is also environmentally affecting that person. Addiction consumes most every thought and disrupts most of a person’s train of thought throughout every day. Along with these interruptions are the constant reminders in the physical environment around them. Her car reminds her of how she gets to the liquor store, his bedroom is the place he shoots up and sleeps all day, his job is where his dealer meets him, the familiar roads are where he heads off to the casino, and on and on and on. Of course, a person may have to someday return to his own environment again but during the middle of a gripping addiction it is definitely our opinion that the chances of success are so much higher if a person can get away and rebuild a new perspective once again. Simply put, it’s so much harder to see the forest through the trees. Beating addiction and regaining control of one’s life takes some serious self reflection and hard work without the distractions of every day life. A person who goes away for treatment will prepare himself with more ease than someone who is constantly distracted by the thought that going home is so easy when things get tough. It’s all about surrendering and allowing the process to take place undistracted.
When speaking with a person with an addiction or the person trying to facilitate it for someone they love, there are usually concerns about going away or sending someone away for treatment. When an individual is calling for oneself the concerns are normally:
When a loved one calls for another the reasons are typically:
For the person seeking help it’s one of two things that gets them there. Either that person is finally at their own rock bottom and wants help or someone or something else in life has pushed against the person’s will and rehab becomes the best option. Even when a person hits bottom and reaches for help it doesn’t mean that that person will opt for the best route to success. Addiction takes over life and consumes everything, even when a person isn’t currently actively using or physically engaged in the addiction. The usual path for a person suffering with addiction is the one with the least resistance. Rarely will you find a motivated addict planning steps with high targets and achieving them.
The thought of stopping everything and leaving to go away to treatment is absurd to many. But the reality is that a person really needs a fresh start and a blank slate to start over. There will always be a long list of reasons why they can’t go as we deal with in interventions all the time. Very rarely is one of those reasons legitimate enough to stall the process. In fact, many excuses are fabricated. Our country has laws in place to protect our citizens suffering with addiction and mental illness and in many cases a job can be salvaged by the Family Medical Leave Act. Family will miss them and vice versa but that time away will fly by so fast it’ll feel like it never happened at some point. Family also needs a break from the addiction, a chance to regroup and rethink their own future with the person getting treatment.
As for the scary thought of meeting new people and exposing one’s life to others, it’s like turning a new leaf and finally feeling some relief. There is something powerful in meeting people who have similar or even the exact same problems as you do to be able to make comparisons and reflections necessary for betterment and healing. Not to mention that support is the key here so building new relationships is essential for growth mentally, physically and spiritually. All of this under a roof of confidentiality so when someone returns home from treatment, they can face everyone with dignity and pride that they are human, made some mistakes, identified there was a problem bigger them and they finally got the help they needed to get back on track again.
When friends and family find reasons not to send their loved ones away for treatment it’s almost always directly related to their co-dependency which in turn is an addiction for them too. It is far from running from one’s problems to leave. It’s actually facing them head on and doing it intelligently. When a family pulls together I’ve seen the biggest of concerns or doubts disappear once everyone chips in and takes on some of the responsibilities of the addicted person. In fact, what we usually find is that there are one or more family members who have been trying to handle all of the addicts’s responsibilities simply because the addict has been neglectful of their on day to day duties. It turns out that the enablers are afraid to let go of all they have done for them and that it will all fall apart if they do. This is a normal thing but obviously dangerous and even careless. It’s all about letting go which is part of the healing process in most rehabilitation practices.
When seeking help for you or someone you love, consider that addition mentally sticks people to their environments and keeps them trapped in a world full of limitations and “can’t dos”. Addiction simply rules over that person and his or her family and friends. The statistics are markedly higher for the person who has the opportunity to get away from that toxic environment than to stay locally and white knuckle it. If all possible, explore all options to make it the best option available to end the addiction.
Something I found out long ago in my own recovery was that without finding true purpose in life, I would never beat the addictions that had conquered me. Without a doubt, purpose is the real cure for addiction. Everybody has an opinion or several opinions on addiction and whether or not it can be beaten. Regardless of which position a person takes, whether they’re an addict in recovery, one who feels they are recovered, an expert in the field of addiction or a family member or friend connected to someone with addiction issues, there is one common denominator that will be found in both successful and unsuccessful cases that dictates their success, PURPOSE or the lack of it.
I don’t believe that anyone ever decides on being hooked on drugs, alcohol, gambling, food, hoarding etc. I think that the stimulating power of such compulsive behaviors sneaks itself into the cracked door of broken or lost purpose in a person’s life. I meet new people frequently and their families and friends always take the time to tell me how great of a person their loved one is, despite how mad at them they may be currently. When I dig into their history a bit, there is always something that happened to them that changed the course of their life and took their focus off of their purpose, i.e. loss of job, divorce, infidelity, family disputes, failed goals, death of loved ones etc. Gradually the addiction grew larger and eventually became the person’s new purpose in life whether they wanted it that way or not. The characteristics are all the same, good friends gone, bad friends now in, foul ups, errors, laziness, narrow minded behavior, more and more removed from reality and into a world of selfish delusion.
Every person has to find their own path toward purpose again by taking the first step, accept there is a problem greater than you and stop doing it. That’s an obvious statement if there ever was one but it all starts with a decision, even if it starts as someone else’s, hence the intervention. From there a person needs time away from their problems to actually let their brain settle and re-focus on life’s priorities. We have to confront what we have done to ourselves and others and find ways to make up enough damage to be forgiven by those closest to us but most of all to forgive ourselves. Everyone in recovery needs a clean slate but a short leash until proven otherwise. We as addicts need a chance to believe in ourselves and our abilities again but also have to humble ourselves that we have a lot of work to do to make up for lost time. With the support of family, friends and support groups a person can get back on track and start to have realizations again about what they can do versus what they cannot.
What matters is taking the time to strip away old destructive behaviors and developing new and constructive ones while living under new guidelines with healthy boundaries. Along this path is the cure for addiction – PURPOSE. Purpose doesn’t have to mean being a millionaire or being famous. Purpose is more on the lines of what families describe as the real person inside, someone who makes people laugh, has a great sense of humor, kids love them, people love them, charismatic and caring about others. One has to find out who he really is again. Being successful isn’t merely about amassing material things. Addicts are notorious for obsessing on having money and things things things! Things are a distraction and to put it bluntly, the less a person has, the more they appreciate what they really possess. Money and things will come along the way but true purpose is love for oneself and his family and friends. Nothing else really matters and life is full of rewards.
If you’re someone stuck in the world of addiction or you know and love someone who is, there is always a way out and many ways to find your purpose again. We at New Life have all lived through addiction and found our purposes in life. Life is full of booby traps and tough times but addiction is not an option anymore. We want to help others find their purpose just like we have so if you need assistance or just need someone to listen, please call and let us help you find your cure for addiction. Call 844 688-8555 any time of any day.
Often your rehabilitation needs to start with you being physically removed from your drug of choice. This facility has a drug and alcohol detoxification center on campus. This is not the norm. Most inpatient facilities require candidates to seek detoxification at a hospital first prior to arriving at their facility. With the help of a highly trained clinical staff of nurses, therapists and a doctor and perhaps some carefully managed pharmaceuticals, you can begin the physical withdrawal from drugs, opiates and alcohol right at Livengrin.
Generally, your stay at this inpatient rehab in Bucks County will be for 28 days depending upon your insurance policy’s limitations for this type of service. Small therapy groups, one on one counseling with an alcohol counselor and twelve step recovery meetings are all part of the daily program offered at Livengrin.
Addiction to pain pills, OxyContin, opiates and IV heroin is at epidemic levels in our country. Removing the addict from his or her access to these drugs seems to be the only way to find any success in the recovery process. Individual and group counseling and intensive behavioral therapy is designed to help the patients recognize the insanity of their addiction, accept their powerlessness of the drugs and be willing to embark on a practical program of action designed to change the way they think about these drugs.
As your drug intervention specialist, we have a relationship with various treatment facilities throughout the country. The first step in the process is to ask for help and be willing to accept the help we recommend. If you can do that, you are on the road to recovery. Call us today at: (844) 688-8555